OUR BANNED MOTHER.

Superwoman once said, "Becoming someone's wife isn't everything in a girl's life, there is so much more other than that.. don't let anyone fool you into believing that it’s the most important thing ever"..And I totally agree with her.

Especially in our country, the biggest problem every mother faces, or at least every mother thinks that it a big issue, is a girls marriage! “Girls do not belong in the world outside, they belong in the kitchen”, this saying has been used commonly, everywhere in the world. Equality is still lacking in every country when it comes to girls. And some people are just scared to send their daughters to work, thinking-“what If something happens to her out there? she is all alone!”. Why? because if something happens then, “meri bacchi se shaadi kon karega ab?” (eng trans: who will marry my daughter now?).. This is outrageous!!

And why are you all scared? Because there are guys out there ? and they might rape her? so you tell her to wear a salwar kameez rather than jeans and shirts? WHY? Because the guys out there have minds, so dirty, that they don’t even leave 5 year olds these days? Why are you changing our thinking and stopping us from growing? Why can’t we change their thinking and teach our boys to be respectful to women since their childhood? These questions remained unanswered in a country where no girl has ever gotten justice immediately!

This country, where comedy shows gets banned, but rapists are not, where beef gets banned, but terrorists are given biryani’s for months, this country where our so called ministers are given some sort of VVIP treatment, and our citizens, who work and strive hard for our country, are treated like garbage..

this country, where all the petty issues are made huge by stamping the names of culture and religion on them, and all the huge important issues are thrown in the garbage..

This country is deteriorating .. our minds are deteriorating..

When it comes to marriage, its her choice, not yours!!

When it comes to rape, its his fault, not HERS!!

When it comes to banning something, ban the narrow minded thinking, not the eye openers!!

We need to accept the truth and open our eyes and become a better country by opening our minds a little..

because a land where ministers are treated like kings and girls are treated like sh*t, that lands cannot be named, “MOTHER INDIA”… Because, YAHAN SIRF DHUL UDAI JAATI HAI HUMARI MAA KI AANKHON MEIN, PYAAR TOH BOHOT DUUR KI BAAT HAI (Eng translation: Here, Only dust particles are thrown into our mothers eyes,  love is just a fantasy)

SO, let’s start respecting our mother land and follow her rules,

her rules about respecting our women, her rules about equality, about openness to experience, about accepting new cultures, about secularism, about making our country a real land of love, not just a fantasy!!

I know I started this article about women, but its not just about women these days, its about our whole country and changing the thought processes of all of the citizens of our country so that we can grow and develop into a better nation.

One last thought,

Our country is still called a developing country, it’s not the economy’s fault, it’s our fault, not in a financial way, but because of our minds, Our minds have stopped our mother from becoming a developed country, our minds have closed the doors to real freedom!

So let’s stop closing up, and let’s start opening up!!!

Be happy, Be positive,

Laugh,love,live your life!!

Peace! 🙂

– Priyanka Rawlani

THE DAY MY LIFE CHANGED.

NOTE: THIS POST IS ESPECIALLY DEDICATED  TO IISUPERWOMANII AND ALSO THE LOVELY SCHEREZADE SHROFF.

It’s been too long since I have written something and finally ,I’ve got some time to jot something down because boards are over!!! yaaaayyy!!!!

OKAY..so I have had no time, whatsoever because of my studies and hence could not upload a lot of stuff that I had written in the past few months. And today I was going to upload some posts that I wrote BUT.. something way too good happened yesterday, so I HAD TO write about it.

So i think most of the people know about the youtube fanfest that took place yesterday, and yes I won VIP passes to it through a contest held by Scherezade shroff <3.. but i had no passes to meet iisuperwomanii.

But as a unicorn, i stayed positive and went to the fanfest, feeling happy that i would get to see her and I would meet sherry 🙂 😀

SO, when I met sherry I was overwhelmed and could not believe that she’s actually there, because c’mon she’s so beautiful and as her videos have helped me too, and has given me a lot of inspiration, I thanked her for everything.

But then something quite amazing happened to me. I was a little TOO depressed about the fact that I won’t be getting to meet my idol, but then her manager told me that they will let me in to meet her!

And yes, thats when IT happened.(see the image given above!)

I was about to faint when I saw her, and when she said she loved me and that “I” am amazing and when she laughed on my silly joke and when she hugged me.

I am writing this post because, yesterday changed my life, YOUTUBE fanfest changed my life..

Wanna know why? and how?

Because SHE was the one who made me realize that there is so much more to life other than the stupid negativity that I had given so much importance to (you all will know what i am talking about if you follow me :P.. do follow if not! :P).

SHE was the one who made me realize that it is really important to be positive and happy and most importantly, to LOVE YOURSELF !!

SHE taught me how to become a better person.

SHE had made me believe in myself again and made me notice the people that actually love me and she made me grateful for all of them!

SHE brought me back to life, so yes I owe a thank you to you LILLY. Not only once, but a thousand times because you have helped me stay positive through every milestone!!

And meeting you changed my life, because it showed me how beautiful as a person you are and how you are so respectful to each and every one and you are not partial at all and you literally inspired me there and there!!

I don’t know what I would’ve done without you lilly :’)..

My inspiration, my idol, my everything! mama unicorn ❤

This post is also dedicated to SCHEREZADE SHROFF who is like THE MOST ADORABLE PERSON EVER!! Thank you sherry for giving me this awesome-sauce opportunity to meet you and you are wonderful and beautiful. You also really inspired me by being soooooo soo sooo charming and sweet and nice and aaah, thank you for everything love!!

AND, lilly, if by chance you read this, I just want to say that, I LOVE YOU THE MOST and thank you for motivating me and telling me to stay positive!!.. Mama unicorn, you are the best and I hope I can motivate people through this blog too, just like you ❤

All the other posts will be up soon.

I just want to tell you guys that I am really grateful for your support and that I really appreciate it! 🙂

Be happy, Be positive.

Laugh,love,live your life!

Peace 🙂

-Priyanka Rawlani

SO.. THAT’S A WRAP!

So, a year has gone by .. and you guys already saw my post about my journey here on wordpress.com and I again thank you all for the support.. But in this post i am going to share the journey of this amazingly hard yet wonderful year with all of you..

so the year had started off where 2013 had left me.. – not really great.. not that exciting..-  but then,as life took a turn with many sudden events, I felt alone and scared due to these changes and yes it was hard for a while but well my great inspiration superwoman helped me through them and thats when i started this blog 🙂 .

Through this blog, I really started expressing myself and I filled that one gap of my life that was empty from a long time.. As time passed things got a little too hard to handle, and that’s when I broke down and stopped writing. I could not handle things and I had lost it.. I tried a lot to  “get back up” ,but could not.

YES.. Failure was standing in front of me and I surrendered to it and for the first time I gave up! and I wasn’t even willing to try.. until one day my best friend threatened me that she was going to stop talking to me if I don’t TRY! and that’s when i  realized that it was time to let go.. That whatever is happening to me is affecting everyone around me and that i was sending out NEGATIVE VIBES!!

I suddenly felt that nothing really mattered any more and that the only thing that actually matters is my happiness and also the happiness of my loved ones, and I started focusing on that. And yes, that helped the most. {note that as a word of advice 😉 }. I recovered in a very good way and started doing things that I liked!! I only focused on the good parts of my life and yes i regained that positive energy again! I met wonderful people, made wonderful memories..

Two of the most special events were the two fest’s that i did in college this year.

I did a belgium exchange program and we actually painted AN M.F.HUSSAIN panting… and it was The most amazing experience ever <3.. this fest helped me in so many ways, that i cannot even explain.

After this was my first ever singing performance in my college fest in front of 1000’s of people {there’s a little fact about me- i sing very well 😛 } This fest gave me SO much confidence and that gave me a sense of direction for what i want from my life.. {p.s- i will be starting a youtube channel soon.. so keep calm and wait for april 😉 } In december ..i performed in my fest and everyone loved it and i got this amazing chance to meet KAILASH KHER!! and yes it was the best experience ever!!…

In short, 2014 was the biggest roller coaster of my life and I can surely say that I have grown up a little more this year… and I just want to thank this year for all the memories and the lessons.. And guys, I just want to tell you all that this year has taught me wayyyy too much, but the moral of the story is, that it all ends well.. come what may, the problems you are facing now will be solved for sure and yes you will overcome them because BELIEVE me, when I say this,that ” god has planned better things for you in the future “,I bloody mean it!..

and a big thank you to my family and my lovely friends who helped me stay positive and strong all this while..

And also you my lovely readers :*

Be happy, be positive, Laugh, love, live your life!

peace! 🙂

-priyanka rawlani

2014 in review

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THINK BEFORE YOU TRUST

My school  teachers used to always warn me about the dangerous world outside and that people can do anything for their own benefit. I never believed them because in my opinion, a person cannot be that bad to voluntarily hurt a person for their own benefit. Unfortunately, I was absolutely wrong. In these two months I’ve learnt lessons, I’ve seen many kinds of people, but in all of this I have grown up. I see what real immaturity and maturity is now, and how people can be totally different from what they actually are.

Now, in today’s post, I am here to tell you all a little bit about my experience and what I have learnt from it. In life, sometimes some people will make themselves seem so important in your lives, that they might become your everything, but that’s not always the truth. Some people do this for their own benefits and they think how they will gain profit from you. Some may do it deliberately and some unknowingly. But you may never come to know if a person is lying or telling the truth. And sometimes they may become so important that your life may get disrupted because of them. But never make the mistake of making anyone so important that it affects every other aspect of your life. Because you may never know when they will leave and just change for no reason! They maybe the moon of your sky, but you may just be a tiny star in theirs.

Some people will take advantage of your weaknesses and some of your weak situations, these people do not care about what you are going through but again looking for their own benefits. Now you will come across 100000000000 of people like these, but you must know how to not give them that place in your life because they do not deserve it. These people may not be deliberately doing it, maybe they were hurt before and they have that anger inside them that came out on you, but that does not mean you deserve it. BUT Never hurt any person back, instead let them do what they want, just dismiss them and be with the people who actually care about you and let karma do its work 🙂

Last but not the least, learn to laugh it off! Don’t take these people too seriously, and I know it’s hard sometimes but you cannot crib about them because that’s just how they are, and one day they might grow up and realize their mistakes, but you just need to be happy that you didn’t take them seriously and that they are not in your life instead you have wonderful friends, family and colleagues with you, that paint your life with beautiful colors. Dismiss them and be happy that you learnt a lesson. And yes, maybe you made a mistake in trusting someone, but mistakes are made by humans, and it’s ok to accept that mistake and LEARN FROM IT and move on.

Never shed your tears for these people, and keep smiling.

Smiling will either make them happy or piss them off, either way you win. 🙂

Life is short, live it to your fullest with the people you want  🙂

Be happy, Be positive,

Laugh,love,live your life!!..

-Priyanka Rawlani

THE POWER OF A SINGLE SMILE

First of all, apologies for my late post, this month has been a real roller-coaster for me, hence I could not post an article, And secondly this month has taught me a lot of things and hence here I am to share those little things that were taught to me!

COMPLICATIONS, COMPLICATIONS AND COMPLICATIONS… LORD I AM SOOOOO SAD!! And one question is asked for this… “DO I DESERVE THIS?” Well obviously no one deserves to be sad, but yes sometimes people do feel burdened under this huge pile of problems that have no solution… And whenever we are in this situation, usually what people do is break down and cry! And then maybe think about a solution, but why don’t you smile? Now you must be thinking that I have lost it because obviously who can smile while facing a problem? Right? WRONG!!

Whenever you feel sad and you feel like you don’t deserve this sadness and that you really want to be happy, JUST SMILE!! Even if you don’t want to, force yourself to do it and believe me your day will automatically turn better!!

Whenever you feel burdened under the pressure of a thousand problems and you cannot find the solution to even one of them, smile!  And I’m not even kidding the burden will feel much much muchhhhhh lighter!

One day I was going home, and it was a real hard, long day and I just thought that I don’t want my mom to see me unhappy, I want to be happy, and then I thought to myself “ what do you do when you are happy? SMILE?” and there it struck me. It’s all in your hands, just smile if you want to feel the happiness and believe me you surely will!

And in life, yes, only smiling cannot solve all the problems, but see, by crying you are just giving into those problems and hence they always win, so you shouldn’t give in and cry instead stay strong and fight WITH A SMILE! When you smile at your problems, you’ll feel a sense of confidence automatically; you’ll feel better there and there. The people who hurt or cause unhappiness to you want to see those tears, but they don’t deserve them! Instead you should show them that whatever they did to you, yes it did hurt you (don’t deny it) but you are strong enough to fight it WITH A SMILE! And they will get scared immediately …. Yes! That strong is the power of smiling

So in the end it’s all your choice, to fight against the problems with a frown on your face, thus adding to your problems OR to fight with a big smile on your face so that you scare your problems so much that it becomes much less complicated by itself 😉

And sincerely start getting the change in you NOW, because in this dominating world no one is ever going to wait for you, you have to keep fighting and going on and on, even after a thousand milestones, you have to go on! So do go on but with A SMILE!

And maybe that smile could brighten up another soul’s day too! 😉

Be happy,Be positive,

Laugh,love,live your life!..

Peace.

 

-Priyanka Rawlani

The lessons to live happily <3

“You held me down but I got up, already brushing off the dust, You hear my voice, you hear that sound? like thunder going to shake the ground!”

-KATY PERRY (ROAR)

 

This song, and many more songs like “let it go” from the movie Frozen and the song “Beautiful” by Eminem, give me the strength to keep it together all the time and stand up for myself. And this is the biggest lesson I have learnt till date..  because in this demanding and judgmental world you must learn to be independent and live your life the way YOU want to.

Now some people asked me to write an article about single people, because one of my article was based on relationships and all, but then I thought why single people like in the dating world, why shouldn’t I write something special about the common man and THE MOST important thing in life- happiness!

                    Now first of all the topic of ego and attitude.. and kind of the most important one these days.. Everyone in this world has some kind of ego and attitude towards life, some are positive, some are negative, some people are arrogant in nature , some are too kind, but no one can change ones nature but the two components- ego and attitude can change someone’s whole life and thus should be used very carefully and one must have their control on them because these components are really strong and important in life.

Sometimes people consider their ego and attitude to be more important than anything else or anyone else. But this can  be really very dangerous sometimes because some people show their “I don’t care” attitude because of their ego and this can spoil many relations very easily. On the other hand some people just hide their emotions and throw their ego away and bow down to everyone to maintain good relations with everyone, but this too can be very  treacherous sometimes because then even the self respect of that person goes down the drain and it’s just not worth it. One should know how to stand up for themselves and how to maintain relations with everyone, at the same time. Being a person with a lot of ego is wrong and a person without any ego is wrong too!! You must direct your attitude towards others according to them.

‘You cannot become some one’s puppet and nor should you  make someone yours’.

 Making others happy is the biggest achievement in the world and living without hate and fear are the biggest lessons in life! NIRBHOR NIRVAIR (translation: without hate and without fear- quote by superwoman) And as superwoman says without hate and without fear are the only two sentences that will make your life happy and content!

People do this all and change their behavior and stuff like that for what? The answer to this is HAPPINESS. Because no one in this world is ever satisfied so they always find ways to make themselves happy. And everyone keeps searching for the KEY to success so that they can be happy, while they don’t know that the answer lies in the question itself! The key to success is happiness and content. Whenever someone completes one goal in their life they want more, they complete the next goal, again they want more, and when a person is totally successful , he still isn’t happy, you know why? Because he still wants more and hence happiness was never found. “I want a gold chain then only can I be happy” “I want a forever 21 top then I will forget all my worries” etc are examples.. of people always wanting more and something to keep them happy. Why can’t it be the other way round? Why can’t you be happy first and then get something automatically! Because the real lesson for life is this :-

“A successful man may or may not be happy, but a happy man is always successful!” ❤

Be happy, Be positive,                                                  

Laugh, Love, Live your life!….

-Priyanka rawlani

OUR BACKONES.. OUR SHADOWS..!!

Physically, when we stand up, our back bone is our main support, without our backbone wouldn’t even have the courage to get up!  Similarly in our lives, when we really think about it, our backbones are our PARENTS..! ❤ They are constantly with us, 24 hours a day, like a shadow just supporting and being there for us, and giving us that extra little push we always need. I think without that extra push, we would be nowhere in our life today..

I once saw this video where they were speaking about how moms are the most important part of a family. If we look at it closely, it is in fact true! Moms are just selfless, they never take a break for themselves, they care about us immensely and love us unconditionally, never asking even a bit in return, constantly working for our betterment so that our future would be bright! And honestly our mothers worry about our future more than they worry about themselves.. :’)..

You all must’ve seen a thousand memes like this one over here on facebook, and it is really very true too, because our mom’s are real SUPERHEROES :P..

And, how our lives would’ve been incomplete without our daddy’s!! :D.. [I am a daddy’s little girl myself 😛 ]. Our fathers work so much only for the well being of our family, they bring us gifts, when we don’t even ask for them and they love us unconditionally and live just to see us smile :’).. They feel proud of us even when our achievements are as small as winning a small prize in a cycling race! ^_^ Our dad’s work day and night only to support their family, they selflessly just give and give and never ask anything in return. AND if you are a girl, your father will spend more on your clothes and shopping than on his own needs!!!..

Our parents are rightfully our backbones, more like our shadows. They get no breaks for themselves, they are totally selfless and plus they will even stay up day and night if they have to for us if needed. And sometimes, unknowingly we hurt them but then too they do not complain and they forgive us in just a second :’).. So today I would like to request you all to just give them a big hug and a sorry and most importantly A THANK YOU. Because Mom, Dad, you both are real angels sent from the heaven above and we cannot thank you’ll enough but we do love you a lot!

And just for the sake of your parents, never ever get unhappy in front of them, because they do everything and work a lot just to see YOU smile. So, if you want to see them smile and you want to make them happy, BE HAPPY, it’s as simple as that! 🙂

 

Be happy, be positive,

Laugh,love,live  your life..!

Peace! 🙂

 

-Priyanka Rawlani

 

 

 

JUST SOME FEELS!

When you look into his eyes, what do you see? The way he looks at you when you do stupid stuff, the way he cares about, the way he does things to make you happy, these all things include in love. Love, from that one special person, is what one needs to survive, if nothing else, but that love is kind of necessary. You all must be thinking, why am I sounding so gooey and romantic. Well, I was watching this movie called P.S I love you. And as everyone mostly knows it’s the most amazing and lovely movie ever. I saw the love they had, the passion, the caring for each other, it was extra ordinary. That’s why I just felt to write something about love and how I feel about it.

Love is a different feeling, A feeling that cannot be explained. Okay this is way too emotional, let’s see it in a little practical way. When someone loves you and you love them back “EGO” is nothing anymore. When that person cares for you even by doing little small things, just to make you happy, do something in return because, I feel in love it takes two people to take and to give. Many times people break apart, they fall apart, and yes I have said this before that eventually the wound heals and you move on, But if the wound was really deep, there’s always a scar left. I think sometimes other than giving up on love, we should fight for it. If you do love a person then don’t say you don’t, if you cannot let go, and if it is WORTH FIGHTING FOR, then do it, fight for it. If everything in love is god’s responsibility then I do not think that there would be anything left to fight for, because then god will be taking care of everything. I think that god just chooses two people to fall in love with each other and the rest in on us on how we handle it, how we fight for it, and how grateful we become for that person.

Sometimes we feel that we just cannot go on and that enough has happened and we are really hurt, and you want to give up on that special one, but when after all the fights, after all the misunderstanding and after all the drama, when you finally make it together, it’s all worth it and you never want to give up ever again.. that feeling that some people experience is amazing, the one which I saw in this movie (p.s i love you) and it was beautiful.

I know these things sound too mature and some people will think it’s just plain stupidity but it’s just my opinion about love that I wanted to bring forward. I personally think that those couples out there who truly love each other and truly want to be with each other  should set their ego apart and actually try to make it work. Some people say if it is meant to be you do not have to try, But I think if you are actually trying and working hard on something, I think that is what you love the most, and hence you want to keep it, with yourself, forever.

Well this article was just my opinion on love, and how people should fight for it. And yes, to the couples out there who love each other a lot, sometimes when you think of giving up, DONT, because there is always hope, and there is always something worth fighting for, so try, and do it now, because as I say, It’s now or never my friend..

Be happy, Be positive, Laugh ,love, Live your life..!

-Priyanka Rawlani

INTERRACIAL DATING AND MARRIAGES IN INDIA

LAUGHTERPEACELOVE

“The boy should be Punjabi, pure vegetarian, should have a turban, from Delhi, and should be from this area of this sophisticated family and have this degree, and blaahhh blahhhh blahhh” This is a common dialogue heard from many parents, referring to the respective caste, in India, these norms are compulsory when you are getting married or even when you are dating. It’s like, you cannot fall in love with someone except when they are of the same religion as yours.

It’s just like, if you met a guy, you like him, but you hold up and ask him “are you a south Indian?” “umm.. no.. why?” “oh.. oops! sorry , see you later” and the love story ended BEFORE IT EVEN BEGAN! I mean c’mon, we are living in the 21st century, life is moving fast, but the thoughts in some peoples’ minds are still very degraded. It’s like love does not…

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